Success Vs. Happiness

What is success? Is it different from ‘Happiness’? Sometimes… ‘yes’, sometimes… ‘No’!

One day you loose all your money in derby race, Can you call it as Success? No…then can you call it as Happiness? No.

You donate 50% of your wealth as charity, Can you call it as Success? No…then can you call it as Happiness? Yes!!! Big yes! That’s the difference between Success & Happiness!

If you stole somebody else’s idea/innovation, claimed it yours and earned millions out of it! Can you call it as Success? Yes! But then can you call it as Happiness? No! May be that’s another difference between Success & Happiness!

You have put all your efforts over a longer period of time and finally one day all your efforts are paid off! Do you call it as Success? Yes! At the same time can you call it as Happiness too? Yes!

So what is Happiness? Happiness is nothing but Ethical success as well as ethical un-success!

Fair enough? Now let’s assume I am a capitalist. Now being an entrepreneur what is that one thing which I want ultimately? …It’s ‘Profit’!!! Profit in terms of blessing? Profit in terms of Respect? No, it’s in terms of money, incentives & bonus!!! ‘If you are just a successful person but not an ethical one, then people might admire you but they will never respect you!’

In this fast pacing world, the above thought is left behind and people are running over the other people in this society and going ahead. Going ahead with their half knowledge, going ahead with lack of proper information, analysis & intelligence! They are like pushing themselves due to peer pressure! People are hungry to take credits and hence fighting among! Blame game, politics, façade… and you are there on top! You are now a successful person! Now you are the most admirable, you are the most egoistic, senses others like ‘Untouchables’! That’s all? Successful? …yes! Satisfied?...may be think through!

What you will not get here is ‘Perseverance’!!! One day you will be as successful as ‘Sachin Tendulkar’, but it’s difficult to carry it like Sachin, who has been carrying it since last 22 years! That’s because ‘Sachin’ is always in pursuit of ‘happiness’ and not ‘success’!

A Success which has space for money, also has space for comparison, it also has space for expectations which are never ending! It has ego, disrespect, no ethics, no social responsibility, if socially contributing, publicize the same! Such people even compete with their own spouse! Compare themselves with their own cousins and relatives in terms of wealth, overlook companion & be ill-mannered with their juniors! If that’s the kind of success you have achieved in recent past, then it’s immoral to call that part of your life as ‘Happiness’!

A success which doesn’t run after money, ‘you are the most knowledgeable one’ is what being said by others about you and not by yourself!, where you give respect and you receive respect, you share knowledge and you get knowledge, you love others and in turn you get blessings, you put deepest efforts and eventually you are paid off, you earn and give it back to society, you come along and you grow along! If that’s the kind of success you achieve, then that part of your life is called as ‘Genuine!’ That part of your life is called as ‘Legend’! That part of your life is called as ‘Happiness!’

What can a ‘problem’ solve?

“What are you feared of most?”…The obvious answer to this question is off course “Dying”! Death is the most frightening thing for most of us. But today I met my childhood friend & happened to talk about her life lasting ‘problem’. Now I think I need to change the answer of this most obvious question ‘What are you feared of most?’

How one so called ‘problem’ in your life could be more frightening than ‘Death’? Even I had the same question in my mind till today. But today I feel I was wrong! ‘If you have courage you can overcome any situation’, this bookish statement I always used to say to myself and got motivated every time. But her problem was beyond all these thoughts; it was beyond her capacity even if she makes her capacity double, triple or quadruple and so on…

Some issues in life are like slow poison! You are the healthiest may be but falling short to solve the ‘problem’. You have got strongest feet but you just can’t run away from your own ‘problem’. At this age, looking at the ‘problem’ you wish to reborn and live the life again to restructure it in such a way that you can somehow be capable to tackle this ‘problem’ but that’s what is not possible! You have skillful hands but they are not good enough. Your brain can think as black as possible but still you lack! Sometimes saying "All izz well" doesn't work!!!

You are just newly married with loads of plans and suddenly one day you realize, you simply can’t plan anything! You can’t expect anything and merely you just can’t even think of “expecting”! All your dreams which remained dreams only till today are going to still remain dreams forever! The problem is eating up her mind, soul, everything like cancer just difference is she can’t even die sooner!

When will I have my first car? Where should I buy a house? How to make systematic investment? Will by L1B get approved? How to plan marriage? How to save maximum tax? What the f**k!!! These are the tiniest issues I am worried of in my life. I got chance to peep into someone else’s life n realized her ‘problem’…Its huge!!! The problem is so huge that even if you simply live your life without enjoying any single moment is like winning! Here forget about fear of death but death is something you are not bothered about rather you don’t have time to die! The ‘problem’ is compelling her to top the university in her studies but she even don’t have time to celebrate it as she knows its not just sufficient!!! ‘State of life’ taught her everything today and she is just thankful to god for this…She has accepted this everything as her ‘Destiny’…

It’s an eye opener to me. Life stretched my boundaries and it made me realize that ‘whatever you are expecting from you life; life is expecting much more than that from you!’ Irrespective of whether you are capable of, you should just do it! Her ‘problem’ asked me to think beyond my capacity, beyond my ability & beyond my age limit. Limit extends to infinity sometimes in real life too…
- ab

Missing sister's presence...Feeling like Home alone!

Shallow water or deep water...

Chilled water...sometimes boiled water...

Conserved water... may be sparkling water...

Normal water or pure like Bisleri bottle...

Flowing water...and steady water...

River water or distilled water...???

Wait wait wait...

I think I m doing some mistake in the whole matter...

I m not speaking the qualities of water, but this is how she is...my only sister!

I am so lucky since I born...

For her, I m still a lil 'babu' n she is my gripe water!

-arun

Feelings...

At times, Love is not blind, but feelings are always blind...because they wake up only when you close your eyes and imagine no one is around you.
Eyes can cry even without eye-sight because of feelings...feelings can not be shown...and even no one can see if you do not want to show.
Feelings are always there to feel and understand each other without looking@eachother! But...though feelings are blind...we call a person 'blind', who does not have feelings :)
"Feelings never die...they just sleep @one corner of your heart, which are not woken up even by loud speaker, but with an old known touch!"

-arun

Thanks!

“We broke up…” Prashant said.”What??? Are you crazy man? What are you talking nonsense?” Me.
“No… I am serious. I don’t want to see her face for rest of my life” He replied.
“But how this happened all of a sudden?” I.
“Its not all of a sudden, now I am just fed up of her and of everything she is connected with.” Prashant said again.

I have seen Prashant all the time on call with “Richa”. Multiple times spotted at CCD, survived them so often from their parents. They were very happy together. In my opinion they were best couple I have ever seen and now…they are broken up!!!...
Is that why they chatted so long on Gtalk?

“Now what will you do?” I was concerned about him.
“Life moves on Man, Ek jayegi doosari aayegi” He just left spitting those words.
I remained stunned on my chair…It’s surely not a true love!!!
Both of them look beautiful, talented, hardworking and were earning lot too. Then what’s that which they missed?
They just missed to say “Thanks” to each other!!! They were earning lot but forgot to earn for each other!!!

Just to ride on a bike in full speed in the middle of the road with girl sitting behind with her hair flying high in the air, is not the most lovable moment but when you kick start the bike and about to release the clutch, just look back into her eyes and say “have faith on me, I am with you.” When the bike will start both will say a silent “Thanks” to each other. “Thanks, for being with her!” and “Thanks, for having faith on him!”

Spotted many husbands carrying vegetable bags from market to home, walking back or forth with his wife. Sometimes they clean the house or even wash the dishes in the kitchen. But still they are not happy; they seem their wife is just strange. Here again they miss to complement. No need to actually do the activity you are not expert in! When she is cooking or busy in doing some work in the kitchen, just pull a chair and sit near to her and chat with her on any silly topic… She likes it. She won’t realize when she finished her daily boring work today. When you will leave the kitchen, she will say “Thanks” which is again silent!

In my opinion, there is no need of bunch of flowers, no need of lots of gifts on valentine day and candle light dinner for making the bonding strong. Just simply say one liner “I want to spend my whole life with you” that’s all!

Somebody asked me, “what’s the most romantic moment in you opinion?” I imagined… “Husband and wife both are working hard to make each other happy, both of them tired with whole day hectic work scheduled, returning home with heavy feet, pulling themselves upstairs toward Home Sweet Home, wife holding the bags with eyes partly open and partly closed, husband trying to connect the key with old friendly lock, finally key connects to the lock, both enters into the house, without switching the main lights she release the bags on the floor and throws herself on the sofa, husband just push back the door with his leg which closes the door by making a sound of latch as if saying ‘today’s work is over.’, he sits down on sofa near to her, remove his shoes, keep the feet on the table top, leans back and take a sigh with closed eyes, now wife just take his hand around her neck for a support and perches in his clasp, now husband look at her, keep her head on his lap, both look at each other with fulfillment and the husband gently kiss her forehead and say “Thanks”… ‘Thanks’ for being with me all the time!!!”
I guess no moment is as romantic as this…

India is my country pledge - IT version

Original

India is my country, all indians are my brothers and sisters।
I love my country and I am proud of its rich and varied heritage;
I shall always strive to be worthy of it.
I shall give my parents, teachers and all elders respect and treat everyone with courtesy.
To my country and my people, I pledge, my devotion.
In their well-being and prosperity alone, lies my happiness.
Jai Hind..................

My IT version -

IT is my Industry, All ITans are my peers and competitors [except my wife]
I love my industry and I am proud of its rich and varied Salary;
I shall always strive to be wealthiest out of it.
I shall give my collegues, mentors and all elders aspect and treat everyone professionally.
To my industry, if sent onsite; I pledge, my devotion.
In their attration & quarterly results alone, lies my happiness.
Walk ins! ..................
http://www.timesjobs.com/candidate/mailers.html?companyName=tcsBangalore_11thsep10

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